10 Simple Steps to Regain Your Self-Confidence Now
You may not know this, but most people experience a lack of self-confidence at some point in their lives. This is particularly true among leaders, entrepreneurs, and high-achievers.
This occurs for a variety of reasons, and to varying levels for different people. Regardless of why you are experiencing a lack of self-confidence, or what level you are feeling, my hope is that you recognize you are not alone.
It’s not a question of IF our self-confidence will be tested, it’s a question of HOW we will recover from it. There is a boatload of things we can do to regain our self-confidence, so here are ten simple steps to get us started:
10 Simple Steps to Regain Your Self-Confidence Now
1. Learn something new.
Learning something new will greatly boost your level of self-confidence. You can sign up to take courses at your local community college or university, sign up for courses online, or simply buy a book that teaches you a new language.
You can visit YouTube and learn a simple card trick, and then use it as an icebreaker when meeting new people. It doesn’t matter what you learn as long as it’s something new, challenging, and fun.
2. Be fearless. Break out of your comfort zone. Do this by trying something, anything, new. Do something you are afraid of doing. Once you have done it, you’ll be amazed at how much self-confidence you suddenly have.
Try bungee jumping, skydiving or horseback riding for the first time. The more thrilling and scarier it is, the more self-confidence you’ll build. Of course, use safety precautions, but keep in mind that everything is hard until it gets easy.
3. Talk to strangers.
You learned not to talk to strangers as a child, but now you’re an adult in need of self-confidence!
Make it a point to say hello to at least one stranger a day and then find something about which you can have a conversation. Don’t forget to smile…it’s the biggest barrier breaker known to mankind!
4. Choose the right friends.
Do you have a positive support system? If the people in your life tear you down or make you feel “less-than” in any way, you need a new tribe of people.
Surround yourself with positive people who accept you for who you are, no matter what. Move those negative people as far away from you as possible.
5. Stop being down on yourself.
This is another thing that happens to most people at some point. We throw our own private pity parties. You cannot raise your self-confidence if you’re being torn down, and this is especially true if you are the one doing the tearing down.
Stop the negative self-talk, and speak to yourself like a firm and loving parent.
6. Do not become a sheep.
Following the crowd is easy, but if you’re following the crowd while going against your own feelings or beliefs, looking yourself in the mirror will be extremely hard.
If you are true to yourself in every way and in all things, your self-confidence will soar. This will, however, take some self-examination and questioning of your motives and intentions.
7. Look your best.
Unfortunately, in this world, we’re often judged on how good we look, or how bad we look. Even more unfortunate is we’re usually our own hardest critic. Just look as good as you can.
Make sure you are clean and appropriately dressed. Fix your hair and wash your face. Wear your favorite perfume or cologne in appropriate amounts. When you know you look and smell good, you have more confidence.
It is not about being a beauty queen or a male underwear model, but taking pride in how the Creator made you.
8. Take the high road.
If someone is tearing you down, don’t make the mistake of tearing him or her down in defense.
Also, don’t make the mistake of tearing down an innocent person in an attempt to feel better about your own shortcomings. Even if you do get caught up in this trap, you can take the low road in, and still take the high road out!
9. Learn to laugh at yourself.
Nobody is perfect. We all make mistakes and bad decisions. We all do stupid things and we are all weird to some extent.
Embrace your imperfections and learn to laugh at yourself. You simply cannot take yourself too seriously.
10. Make the most of every day.
Do as much as you can every day and do your best in all things. Don’t let the pursuit of perfection paralyze you…instead, just strive for excellence in all you do.
At the end of the day, look back at what you have achieved, and just breathe. Feel your self-confidence building, and vow to make the most of tomorrow too.
BONUS: Begin reading FLASHPOINTS daily journal every morning to set your intentions for the day; and before you go to sleep at night recall and list everything you’re grateful for that day. These simple acts will shift your spirit and boost your morale.
I understand that simple does not always mean easy, but we must take action if we’re to build or regain our self-confidence. There’s no better time than right now to start the rebuilding process!
Which of these steps are helping you? What simple steps can you recommend to help build your self-confidence? I’d like to hear about it below.